12 long years

What is a right or wrong? Hurting someone you love for your own peace is right or wrong?

Is it a wrong to spend a day with someone you have long desired. A desire of 12 years.12 years of imagining your crush in every romantic scene with yourself... 12 long years of being there in front of your childhood crush as a friend and yet not getting the moments with him that you have always dreamed of... 12 years of seeing him or her always being someone else's love and yet being there to hold them when they fall. A person with whom your relation feels like that can only be the defination of what people call as being "Soul Mates."

After such long time, now when both of you are on the verge of taking the big leap of your life;you feel like you need to spend sometime with each other is it right or wrong.
Someone asked me this question wether its unfair to your current or future partner if you spend time with your age old or century old crush before you take your big leap with someone other than that crush..

A few memories is all that you need to go ahead? I told her no! Its absolutely alright to be with that crush for some good quality time. Afterall, what you do in search of your inner peace can never be wrong or hurtful. Ofcourse their future partners may never understand why the hell they took this decision; but it would be good for them if they are at peace with themselves.
A wait this big deserves its rightful time because before anyone else it was a story of these 2 people. I was touched by this question and it put me to think and thinking of it just overwhelmed me with emotions.
We are at an age where settling down is now the much needed next step for us ( by us i mean people between 27 to 32 years of age ) but before taking the leap we need to be at peace with ourselves to involve someone else in our life and share our life with them.
The inner peace maybe anything from a regret of not choosing a proper career to such a scene where letting someone know how you feel or felt about them to spending a day with them. Because marriage brings along with it lots of other challenges for both the genders. Its a relation which asks you to give a lot of yourself in order to sustain it and make it strong nd in such a condition if your not stable within things shake. So go ahead and make peace with yourself 1st then involve someone else in your life.