What are waste memories?
Its the memories that do no good to your life.
Some memories make you laugh some others make you cry and some others might have some other effect on our mind and heart when you remember them. But, there are some memories which are a factual part of your life but are of no use to you anymore. They are just there.
So i call them as WASTE MEMORIES.
Why?
Because, you cant get rid of your memories anyways.
So what do you do with them?
Hence like waste clothes these are waste memories.
Why and how i came to this concept?
Well read on for the answer.
Yesterday was the day my best friend had got married 3 yrs back. If everything would have gone well then she would have been celebrating her 3 anniversary yesterday, but she could not even celebrate 1 anniversary. Things dint go as expected and she returned to her parents house within 10 months. Went through all the melodrama of councelling by "N" number of free counsellors called RELATIVES, may be 1 professional counsellor as well. Finally they put thier case in court and went through another few ardious sessions of councellings, questioning and cross questioning and a few months back the judge finally declared the marriage to be dissolved officially.
In between all this life did change for the girl ( call me partial or whatever, i would only put my friends side today). She did try extracting every positive thing there was to this situation, like, finally pursing a career as against being a housewife and tried living a happy life.
I know of course that divorces are no big deal these days but it still took 3 years of her life.
Now coming back to the memories.
No matter how much you try living happily there is one day or probably a couple of days that dont pass without reminding you the importance they had once held. One such day for my friend is her wedding day. Even though she is happy to be out of a dead relation, every year on that day she remembers that it was that day on which she had become a BRIDE.
It makes her remember how many preparations she had looked after herself, just to make that one day picture perfect. How many tedious dress rehersals and make up rehearsals did she go through to make sure she looked her best ( tedious because she was never a fashion or makeup lover ). How much shopping and window shoppings were done to select her wardrobe. Plus, not to forget the freaking amount of money spend in arranging a GREAT INDIAN WEDDING.
And now, it all sounds a waste.
Gone down the gutter.
So what do u do with this waste memory, because, no matter how much you move on in life these memories will never erase. These waste memories are like the waste wedding and honeymoon photo albums which dont hold any significance any more but where supposed to be the most important moments some time back or atleast thats what a normal human thinks of it to be.
You cant do anything about the memories and as far as the photo albums are concerned i suggested my friend "to cut ur pics and courier that morons pics to his address" with a title saying " with lots of love". Hehehe.
But its still a waste anyways.
Its the memories that do no good to your life.
Some memories make you laugh some others make you cry and some others might have some other effect on our mind and heart when you remember them. But, there are some memories which are a factual part of your life but are of no use to you anymore. They are just there.
So i call them as WASTE MEMORIES.
Why?
Because, you cant get rid of your memories anyways.
So what do you do with them?
Hence like waste clothes these are waste memories.
Why and how i came to this concept?
Well read on for the answer.
Yesterday was the day my best friend had got married 3 yrs back. If everything would have gone well then she would have been celebrating her 3 anniversary yesterday, but she could not even celebrate 1 anniversary. Things dint go as expected and she returned to her parents house within 10 months. Went through all the melodrama of councelling by "N" number of free counsellors called RELATIVES, may be 1 professional counsellor as well. Finally they put thier case in court and went through another few ardious sessions of councellings, questioning and cross questioning and a few months back the judge finally declared the marriage to be dissolved officially.
In between all this life did change for the girl ( call me partial or whatever, i would only put my friends side today). She did try extracting every positive thing there was to this situation, like, finally pursing a career as against being a housewife and tried living a happy life.
I know of course that divorces are no big deal these days but it still took 3 years of her life.
Now coming back to the memories.
No matter how much you try living happily there is one day or probably a couple of days that dont pass without reminding you the importance they had once held. One such day for my friend is her wedding day. Even though she is happy to be out of a dead relation, every year on that day she remembers that it was that day on which she had become a BRIDE.
It makes her remember how many preparations she had looked after herself, just to make that one day picture perfect. How many tedious dress rehersals and make up rehearsals did she go through to make sure she looked her best ( tedious because she was never a fashion or makeup lover ). How much shopping and window shoppings were done to select her wardrobe. Plus, not to forget the freaking amount of money spend in arranging a GREAT INDIAN WEDDING.
And now, it all sounds a waste.
Gone down the gutter.
So what do u do with this waste memory, because, no matter how much you move on in life these memories will never erase. These waste memories are like the waste wedding and honeymoon photo albums which dont hold any significance any more but where supposed to be the most important moments some time back or atleast thats what a normal human thinks of it to be.
You cant do anything about the memories and as far as the photo albums are concerned i suggested my friend "to cut ur pics and courier that morons pics to his address" with a title saying " with lots of love". Hehehe.
But its still a waste anyways.
Very nicely written.
ReplyDeleteIndeed "waste memories" come from the "baggage of the past".
We need to sweep such "waste" away and move on in life.
Thnk you fr the appreciation vikram. And everybody moves on but those dates still nudge somewher in d head is wat my friend is experiencing rit nw. But ya in life we shud always try to move ahead.
DeleteThnx again
well written! one should forget the past and move ahead. But it is easier said than done!
ReplyDeleteThank you meenakshi.
ReplyDeletenice.. thanks for such articles.. indeed some memories are wastage
ReplyDeletewc tapan,
ReplyDeleteglad u liked the post. and waste memories are to b thrown away destroyed and we hav to move on.