what woman really want

I hear my Team leader and many other men complaining about our gender that is the female gender being a confused species and keep wondering what kind of girls they have encountered. As far as relations are concerned I would say that not a particular gender but the whole generation is confused and have a fear of commitment.

When I read this post by Preeti Shenoy today I could not stop myself from sharing it because I have myself personally experienced a most of the things. I once had a friend who had this compulsive urge to give solutions without even listening to the entire thing that I say I so hope he reads this atleast it will help him in his personal relations.

 I am putting in my own example in this post and giving the source link below so you could check Preeti’s post as well.

Enjoy reading –

Here are five things every woman will want from her man.

1. Tell us we look beautiful. Notice the small things about us. Like the ear-rings and heels. Notice the new eye-liner. I know most men don't even notice something as trivial as an eye-liner but you can at least notice her new dress or saree and compliment her on time. We woman don’t have the patience to wait till the date ends to hear just a “your looking nice!”
   
2. Please talk. Articulate! Talk to us about stuff that interests you. A new movie? A new book? Even call of duty black ops is fine! Really :). What do you like? What goes on inside that head?  Just talk!
We like to have a nice conversation with the person we like. Be it on any topic.

3. Please dress well. Please make some effort in looking nice when you take us out. 

We girls too like a little Greenary for our eyes. You could look decent enough rather then just getting out of the bed and coming for a date and also just because your married to the girl now doesn’t mean that you dress anyhow.

4. Get us little presents for no reason. Anything really! Flowers, a book, a card, a music CD. The gift need not be expensive, but please show that some effort went in choosing that gift. while on the subject I must clarify--table-mats for the house is not a good gift. Neither is a weighing scale. We like to feel special even after years and years of relationship.

5.Please listen! I mean really listen when we speak. Pay attention. I know what our girlfriend's sister's cousin wore and whom she talked to and where she went and what her boss told her at work, doesn't really interest you. I know. But listen, will you? And empathise. Be genuinely interested. Or at least try. Women will love you for it. 

Sorry, if I was rude in any of the things I said but I feel that these days maintaining a relation takes more efforts and dedication. We all (both men and woman) have so much and so little time that we stop showing love and affection to our partners.

Source - Preeti Shenoy

Happy 2013 to all

After reading a post by a fellow blogger ritika i realised yesterday that i have also not yet wished you guys new years.
As they say Better late than never.
So, A very happy new year to all of you.

How is 2013 treating you guys so far?
The past 5 days or rather as i had mentioned in my post on 31st december last 8 days (inluding the last 3days of december) have been full of joy, excitement and happiness for me.
So I thought why not make a list of things we should do in 2013.
1. Be happy you are a survivor. After all we all did live through the DOOMS DAY.
2. Take a resolution you can break happily and another one which you would be proud to achieve. A little naughty a little nice is a good combo, isnt it?
3. Give yourself one pety reason to smile daily (this can be the resolution you would be proud to achieve)
4. Create something! ( even if its just a small art or craft or a simple new recipe ). Basically something which can again give you a feel good factor.
5. Learn that thing you always wanted to. ( I am finally joining a photography class starting today and am super excited )
6. Those staying near any water body - go to the beach and watch the sunset. Those who dont go to your terrace with a cup of tea or coffee and enjoy the sunset.
7. Moon gazing is one of the awesomest thing trust me. Even the most unromantic person can not stop themselves from appreciating its beauty.
8. Go for at least one adventure sport this year.
9. Travel alone atleast once. Even if its a 2 hour journey. I had been to pune in december and it is a nice way of spending some lone time with yourself.
10. Get wet in the rain. Thats my yearly ritual and I dont care where I am if its raining and am on my way home i hold the umbrella shut in my hands.
11. Pamper yourself and your loved ones yaar.
12. Gossip. Science says its a stress buster. But ofcourse watch out it could be dangerous.
13. Lastely, keep reading my posts and interacting with me. I love that.
So basically, the entire theme of this post is to do things which make you feel good about yourself, life and over all about everything around you.
I wrote this post because I have heard from many people around me and even on few blogs I read or few comments on other blogs that 2012 has been a bad year for many people.
So lets all try treating 2013 as a good year from our side because like they say if you think positive you automatically attract good thimgs to you.
Love you all and once again a very happy 2013.

Happie birthday to my bhabhi poonam

It seems like today is a day to write love posts for my loved ones. Its my bhabhi's birthday on 5 jan so i would publish this post and tell her to read.

I would have preferred a hand written letter to her but dint get the chance as this idea just struck me few minutes before 12 am.

So here it goes.

Dear poonam,

Many many many happy returns of the day. I know i may not have been a super good sister in law ( nanand ) to you but i want you to know that you are the best bhabhi someone could ever get.

I dont know when it happened but for me you mean not only just a bhabhi but also a sister and my best friend.

Since childhood since it was only me and your husband keval i can only say that your the one person who made me feel what relation two sisters share.

Everybody around me know that i am a bit cranky at times but i have tried my best that my crankiness doesnt touch you. But still if i might have hurt you i am sorry.

Lastly i only want you to know that i can not imagine how my family was before you i mean it feels like you were a family members since ever.

Happie birthday once again.

Lovr you.

A tribute to my CRUSH

Now that my 1st crush and a long time good friend is finally getting married I just thought I should write a post on our friendship. I know that not many people would be interested in knowing someone’s personal relations but its my blog and its dear to me and so is my friend so I ought to write about him.

Well as you may assume he was the 1^st guy I ever fell for and like they say 1^st crushes are unforgettable likewise he is one person my memories never forget. But we are 2 complicated souls and so my crush or his feelings for me never seemed to overpower our care and concern for each other. Yes you guys are smart enough to guess that the feelings were mutual between us.

We liked each other, fell for each other and then we fought with each other too. He went away for sometime etc. after lots of melodrama in 2 years of friendship both of us realized that we can afford to suppress our attraction for each other but we still can’t live without each other’s presence in our lives and so we kept going on in life with our friendship.

It’s not that we met daily or called up regularly. Its more on the telepathy that our relation has lasted so long. Call it fate or telepathy or destiny or anything but we always tend to bump into each other when either one of us is on the verge of getting emotionally drained. Yes, being a crab and a fish by sun signs our emotions too give us a toll atleast they used to as teenagers.

Kitne aaye kitne gaye ( crushes ) but we still hang on with each other like what he calls CONSTANT.

Now after 14 years it feels good to know that he is one of the few people who care for you unconditionally and who really want the best things in life for you and what makes me proud of myself is that he thinks the same about me and even though none of us ever promised it but we have a 100% guarantee that no matter what the world think’s of us and about our success and failures we both will never judge each other for the deeds we did or will do.

So here’s a small wedding gift for my 1^st crush may god give him all the happiness and peace in his marriage and other phases of life.

Love you buddy forever!

Bye Bye 2012

To begin with 2012 has over all been bad for me. I would try making this the last post where I mention the loss of my father. Apart from that bollywood lost many legends too.

 A 2 minute moan for the following people -

1. Yash Chopra ji ( The person who taught us romance)

2. Rajesh Khanna ji ( The 1^st Indian heart throb)

3. Shammi Kapoor ji ( The man who taught me the FAMOUS HEAD SHAKING STEP of AAJ KAL TERE MERE PYAR K CHARCHE)

4. Dara Singh ji (The original action hero of bollywood)

5. Mehndi Hassan ji (Pakistani ghazal maestro, well I am partial to ghazal)

6. Joy Mukherji ji ( Another person who depicted the Charm of Romance)

7. Achala Sachdev ji ( The 1^st zohrajabeen known to me and many kids from my generation and the later one’s)

8. Pandit Ravi Shanker ji ( The sitar maestro)

9. Jaspal Bhatti ji ( Who introduced humour to me in my childhood days )

10. A.K. Hangal ji ( No kid who has ever seen sholay can forget his famous dialogue “itna sanata kyu hai bhai”

11. Bala Saheb Thakeray ( The person whose death stopped the Pace of the non stop never sleeping city MUMBAI for 2 days)

12. Taruni Sachdev ( The cute Child Artist from the Movie PAA )

Well these are just the famous people who died forgive me if I might have missed on some one.

Apart from of course my 1^st hero of my life my dad.

But now that 2012 has come to an end, I am already feeling the positive vibes coming my way. Personally it has been a bad year and the last 4 months have been the heights of negativity.

Its 31^st December today and I realized that the last 3 days have been a roller coaster of happy moments and good things coming my way, which has made me think that the end is already giving me the taste of goodness of the coming year.

A friend had told me that why are you terming the year to be good or bad. Well I know it is not the year which was good or bad it is the incidences in each individual's life's that make him or her feel good or bad about the year. Its only human psychology to term things good or bad. But, I dont mind being a little human today because am ending it yet on a good note!

So bye bye 2012 and 2013 I await you and welcome you with open arms and big ear to ear sparkling smile and lots of warmth in my heart.

Cheers to all.

P.S. Go low on alcohol, it’s a bad idea to start the new year with a hangover!!! :P

Any resolutions ? I am once again gonna try my hundreth attempt to go thin as my resolution this year! what's yours?

Mourning aint ending but where are we heading

The title of this post is in 2 context in my life right now.

One is my own personal mourning that doesn’t seem to end since my dad died in august and the other is the Delhi rape case and all the outrage of the public.

My question still remains that WHERE ARE WE HEADING?

In my own personal journey I have had small moments of joy like this one where my blog visits crossed 2000 views last night but that isn’t making me happy at all right now. I have had quiet a lot of heart aches since August 2012 in my life and given some to others too. The guilt the anger the frustration is all any ways making me insane and the shows like Crime Patrol and Savdhaan India add up to it by making it difficult to trust people around me. I know they are issued in public interests and they might have helped someone somewhere to save their life but its still making things difficult somewhere.

To be very honest I am totally numb right now and this post may not make any sense to anybody not even to me but I need to write.

I want to know where are we heading?

Even as a teen when I got to know the meaning of rape my 1^st reaction was the punishment of a rape should be to cut off the private part of a man who does that crime. Imagine the level of anger in me back then, but as time passed not only did the number of rape cases increased but the degree of inhuman or beast like nature of the rape increased more and more. Gang rapes, public rapes with the people seeing it coldly, making a girl walk with nude body throughtout the village for loving a person of other caste, openly kidnapping a girl walking on road raping her killing her and walking away these are a few incidents from the episodes of crime patrol which left me irritated.

But I cant do anything about all this!

Being a girl I just get one question –

On one hand in a city like MUMBAI we the girls of today plan and strive to make ourself an independent woman. We thrive to make our own identity and we love it when any other girl gets some recognition.

On the other hand I have an INDIA where girls are still just nothing more then a carrier of vagina. Where they are killed for being born a girl. What are we a TOY? why is it the mentality of some Indian male that if you want to humiliate a girl then rape her. Are we nothing more then a body?

Now this delhi rape case

The entire nation is angry but what are we doing for it!

Can we please do something to force the government to change the laws now atleast

And corruption!

Ya, that is the biggest reason why all this is happening.

Even though in this case it is not related but then there are cases of wealthy bastards kids commiting the same crime and getting away with it because of their contacts and money.

We need law amendments very badly and very quickly.
One major problem is that a majority of the people who commit these crimes dont have a facebook account to see our angry status updates or even the blogs we write.
But the government officials probably do!!!
So if anyone reading this post does have the authority or the method to bring about changes am asking them
Can we pls do something now.?
Otherwise the only rescues that I cant think of is keeping swords at home for our safety and the woman who work need to carry a licenced gun or fuck the licence but a loaded gun.

You may laugh at my thoughts but come to think of it and you would choose the same option for your Mother, Sister, Wife and Daughter.

Bag of waste memories

What are waste memories?
Its the memories that do no good to your life.
Some memories make you laugh some others make you cry and some others might have some other effect on our mind and heart when you remember them. But, there are some memories which are a factual part of your life but are of no use to you anymore. They are just there.
So i call them as WASTE MEMORIES.
Why?

Because, you cant get rid of your memories anyways.

So what do you do with them?

Hence like waste clothes these are waste memories.

Why and how i came to this concept?

Well read on for the answer.

Yesterday was the day my best friend had got married 3 yrs back. If everything would have gone well then she would have been celebrating her 3 anniversary yesterday, but she could not even celebrate 1 anniversary. Things dint go as expected and she returned to her parents house within 10 months. Went through all the melodrama of councelling by "N" number of free counsellors called RELATIVES, may be 1 professional counsellor as well. Finally they put thier case in court and went through another few ardious sessions of councellings, questioning and cross questioning and a few months back the judge finally declared the marriage to be dissolved officially.
In between all this life did change for the girl ( call me partial or whatever, i would only put my friends side today). She did try extracting every positive thing there was to this situation, like, finally pursing a career as against being a housewife and tried living a happy life.
I know of course that divorces are no big deal these days but it still took 3 years of her life.
Now coming back to the memories.
No matter how much you try living happily there is one day or probably a couple of days that dont pass without reminding you the importance they had once held. One such day for my friend is her wedding day. Even though she is happy to be out of a dead relation, every year on that day she remembers that it was that day on which she had become a BRIDE.
It makes her remember how many preparations she had looked after herself, just to make that one day picture perfect. How many tedious dress rehersals and make up rehearsals did she go through to make sure she looked her best ( tedious because she was never a fashion or makeup lover ). How much shopping and window shoppings were done to select her wardrobe. Plus, not to forget the freaking amount of money spend in arranging a GREAT INDIAN WEDDING.
And now, it all sounds a waste.
Gone down the gutter.
So what do u do with this waste memory, because, no matter how much you move on in life these memories will never erase. These waste memories are like the waste wedding and honeymoon photo albums which dont hold any significance any more but where supposed to be the most important moments some time back or atleast thats what a normal human thinks of it to be.
You cant do anything about the memories and as far as the photo albums are concerned i suggested my friend "to cut ur pics and courier that morons pics to his address" with a title saying " with lots of love". Hehehe.
But its still a waste anyways.